How to tell if they really like you.

Hi all
My girlfriend tells me it’s Valentine’s day this Sunday! Help! I would love to say that I have everything under control and that I’ve booked a table for two in a snug little corner of our favourite restaurant but...of course I haven’t got round to it yet. How did it come around so quickly? So as the most romantic day of the year (so I’m told) fast approaches I thought I’d share with you my top 5 tips for being able to tell if someone likes you – I mean really likes you! Often when someone fancies you it’s obvious isn’t it – you just know. But what about when you aren’t sure if they like you in the way same way that you like them...
In this edition of ‘book club’:

How to tell if someone fancies the pants off you, or not...

PS – this applies to the girls and the boys.

Alert: How to achieve exactly the opposite of what this edition of book club is about – only take one point in isolation! Each one of the points below must be evident for you to draw an accurate conclusion.

1. LEANING IN: People may be a little cagey with what they say so that they don’t reveal their true feelings, but the non verbals normally give you an accurate picture of what is really going on. So if they lean in towards you while you are talking it means they are interested in what you are saying – this can be an initial sign that they like you.

2. FEET POINTING TOWARDS YOU: The feet really give the game away. If both feet are pointing directly at you then they are interested in you (at some level).

3. AN INNOCENT TOUCH: When we like others in an intimate way we tend to be more tactile than usual. A light brush of the hand or a tap on the arm, for example, seem fairly innocent on the face of it - but when combined with the above two points they can mean much more. The touch will normally be disguised as a part of a necessary ‘action’ to get your attention for a perfectly innocent reason, of course. So keep your eye on their hands and pay attention to any appropriate touching.

4. MORE THAN 5 SECONDS IS A STARE: In our culture the average time for ‘appropriate’ eye contact is somewhere between 2 and 5 seconds – any longer then it becomes a stare. However when we romantically like others our eye contact goes up. So if you find the person is making good eye contact which is just a tad longer than you are used to, then this means they probably like you – and crucially, it won’t feel like a stare.

5. SHARING A SECRET: If the person you are talking with shares a secret with you, or if they talk about something that is close to their heart, something with high emotion in it , it’s a sign of them opening up to you and that they trust you. It also encourages you to reciprocate by sharing your own story/secret. This begins to build a bond between the two of you. When emotional stories are shared it creates a deep level of rapport – the key here is that the stories are shared even when you don’t know them that well.


If all of the above are present when you meet or talk with someone then you can be pretty sure that they like you in a romantic way.
Enjoy!

Mark & Scott
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