How to solve problems in your sleep

Hi all

This week your options have had a very welcome boost. The recession is over, it’s official! So for the first time in a few years you’ll start feeling like you have a few more options, and more choice. Right now is a great time to stop and think about what you really want and to stop doing the things you don’t want.
In this edition of ‘book club’:

Cut your losses and run - or carry on? Do the things you really want to do!


A quick question for you. How do you know when something isn’t working or when something isn’t right for you any more? That ‘something’ could be the job you are in, a relationship, a fitness regime, a diet, your system for getting the kids to eat their dinner, anything - the list goes on.

Let me put it another way. How do you know when to give things one more try or when to try something else?

Sounds like a bit of a no-brainer question with an even more obvious answer, but actually people often carry on (doing something that’s not working) far longer than they should. So much so that they often end up missing opportunities and feeling a bit **** about their life. And It’s easy to understand why when you think about it. It’s all about the 4 ‘C’s’ - commitment, consistency, choice and change.

People carry on doing things that might not be working for them anymore mostly because of the 4 ‘C’s’.

1 & 2: Commitment & Consistency – nobody likes to be inconsistent, unreliable, hot one minute but cold the next, wishy washy or flaky, do they? Inconsistency in humans in an undesirable trait, that’s why when you set out on a path and make that path known to your friends and family you tend to stick to it.

Ever walked into a restaurant, sat down, looked at the menu and then walked out? Difficult isn’t it? That’s commitment & consistency kicking in. Commitment & consistency is good at getting you to carry on with things but if it’s the wrong thing you are ‘carrying on’ with then it becomes bad.

3: Choice – people tend to carry on doing things the same way because they feel they have no choice. This is never true. We always have more choice. If you’ve finished the book you’ll know this already so I’ll say no more. If you haven’t, then all you need to know is that there are techniques to generate more choices if you don’t feel you have any.

4. Change – a lot of people don’t like change. They stick to what they know, better the devil you know and all that…this allergic reaction to change keeps people doing the same thing even when it is bad because they think the new thing will be worse. This is hardly ever the case.

So that’s what keeps people doing the same thing over and over even when the thing they are doing is bad for them. So how do you figure out if what you are doing is bad in the first place? How do you get enough clarity and distance so you can see the wood AND the trees?

Simple.

Just sleep.

The next time you’re in bed and ready to sleep, ask yourself this question a few times before you nod off – ‘Shall I give it one more try or shall I try something different’?’ And of course you might have your own version of that question. Once you have done this, just go to sleep and when you wake up ask yourself the question again and the answer will pop into your head. Trust me - this works, just try it. And even if it doesn’t work the first time around, try it again over the next few nights and the answer will come. This works because your question bypasses conscious thought and uses the subconscious to give you the answer, but you knew that already…


Mark & Scott
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